Can privileged people tell interesting stories?

A lot of the book is spent justifying her privilege

I am personally of the opinion that you don’t have to be the most marginalized person in the room in order to have an interesting story. Some of my favorite memoirs are from people who come from perfectly adequate, supportive, first-world backgrounds. I feel like there’s this trend happening in society where your story isn’t worth telling if you haven’t had to struggle remarkably, and I don’t buy into that.

Parts of the book were actually quite relatable, and I wish she’d focused on them more

Relative privilege aside, there were plenty of the parts of the book that I actually enjoyed and related to quite a bit. She and I are about the same age, and we both saw the sobering effects of the 2009 Great Recession. When you’re taught from a young age that financial stability and material wealth will bring you happiness and that ephemeral happiness seems harder and harder to come by, it’s hard not to feel a sense of animosity towards that lifestyle.

Books about influencers are weird

I’d like to say how weird and disorienting it is to read a book about somebody whose actual profession is “social media influencer.” It’s like watching a movie set in modern times with modern technology, when all plot points could be resolved with, like, two apps and a text message. How do you make for interesting stories when so much of the plot is Very Online? She talks about her Instagram fans recognize her (and her van) and even help bail her out of situations. That kind of stuff takes me out of the book and throws me back into reality in a jarring way.

She did her ex-husband Keith Madia dirty

Another issue that I had with this book was the fact that the idea of maintaining her ex-husband’s privacy was frankly, a real embarrassment. She calls him Neil in the book but a passing glance at her Instagram will confirm that her ex-husband was, in fact, Keith Madia and frankly, she does him quite dirty in this book. She paints him out to be an alcoholic, blames him for her dog’s accident, and acts as if he abandons her during a very difficult period in her life.

In the book, she addresses the criticism (seemingly) very well

So, it didn’t take a forensic psychology degree to realize that she has clearly been “canceled” because of the situation related to her dog and the subsequent GoFundMe debacle. Apparently, they claimed “someone” hit the dog, but it was actually them. In the desert. Drunk driving (according to Keith Madia). At the time, while I was reading her quite sanitized account, I felt like her explanation absolutely made sense. Having lost a precious dog to a car accident, I empathized with the pain and heartbreak she went through related to Dagwood.

Nowhere for Very Long review: conclusion

I didn’t want to dislike this book, but unfortunately, the evidence stacked against Brianna Madia is massive. I hope her ex-husband finds healing.

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